But thanks for your input! Actually things are going very well right now and I think it is mainly BECAUSE I am doing more self-improvement, self-understanding. When I am feeling down about the M, it usually has to do with my perceptions (and unfortunately they are off at times) My H says the same things. When we get overwhelmed with other parts of our lives (like the kids) or when we feel individually stagnant (personally bored) we used to blame the M. But we have grown so much the past few years. And we TALK about it now which is so great. And as I was stating on HD's thread, it just would not have been possible (the reconciliation) is we did not find new RESPECT for one another. Has it improved our SL? yes and no. Frequency is still pretty low (once or twice a month) but it is good when we have it so I can't complain too much. And yes, he is a catch! Thanks for noticing! Would I be with a loser?
