And all this talk about whether to sleep in the bed, or wear the shirts she hates, or catch her on video, blah blah, is all just more power plays and doomed to failure. Again, without RESPECT in a M, what do you have? Nothing but a f-ed up R. Nothing is going to change until that is established.
LFL, I agree that respect is critical in a M, but are you saying that you either have it or you don't? From my perspective, respect can be earned and if that's the case, then it follows that there are ways that can be done. Those are not the same for everyone, so if you don't like the example about wearing a shirt Mrs HD hates, then replace it in your mind with a different example for pete's sake. It's just an example of being yourself, which most people tend to respect. They may not like it, but they respect it.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
