I've got everyone beat. The H and I are both "psychology professionals" (in different fields) AND we have a sex starved marriage. SUX! Well...........goes to show you that as Schnarch and many other R experts have said having marital trouble is normal not abnormal. It is chance to grow up, to see what you are each made of. You DO need to chill but that doesn't make any of this easy. Don't spend any time thinking of when he last got off. That is HIS problem. He may/may not take care of it on his own. Not your problem either. Your problem is that he hasn't shown any interest in marital sexual negotiation and prefers to let you rot more often than not. There could be any number of reasons why but having you at a continuous state of "Do me! Do me! Do me!" is like having a toddler screaming for a lollipop - sometimes you give them one, sometimes you don't. I'm not trying to be mean but trying to help you quit wasting brain space on things that don't matter in the equation. I'm sure others will have helpful ideas for you. I'm short on time today.
