You don't have to take an immediate extraordinary action or leave or change overnight. It just means you have to stop being overwhelmed by what SHE does and says and feels and start honoring YOU.
Did I say I was taking any immediate extraordinary action? What about my post indicates that I'm not honoring myself? I think I'm doing a pretty good job of not drowning in her sh!t.
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That can be so very small at first (insisting on making your favorite meal now and then even though she hates it, wearing your favorite shirt even though she doesn't like it, refusing to leave your bed, etc) and you just build on it and build on it for however long it takes until you have to confidence to tell her to straighten up or get the fkc out.
I actually have started wearing some shirts that I had shoved in the back of the drawer because she hated them. Started this about two months ago. Since she started her diet a couple months ago, I don't cook for her at all anymore. I eat what appeals to me. As for the bed issue, isn't it different for me and you? My W wants me out of the bed because, either she doesn't trust me to not touch her, or because she was upping the ante (or both). For you, I don't understand why you are STILL out of the bed. WTF? I foresee me being out of my bed for a couple nights, at most. And, you know what? With the darned puppy sleeping in the bed, moving all around and, so far, peeing twice on the bed, I'm actually relieved to be sleeping elsewhere. Let her deal with the dog by herself.
