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[Heimlich]

No, Nugget, it's a valid point.

Hard to communicate via words the tone/exact way I said it to her, but I'm aggravated/fed up at her suggestions of how to spend time with the girls. I play games with them. I take them to the park. Zoo, etc. I've always spent a lot of time with them.

It's a boundary thing. Yes, I appreciate her concern for the girls being bored. At the same time, she's not giving me any credit for my ability to keep them occupied. And, yeah, that's bugging the hell out of me.

However, we no longer have the need to listen to each other about how we spend our time. Maybe we will again one day, but until then . . . "

I bet you wife feels that you love and respect her for her opinion and concern for her daughters and how you will spend you time with them after a conversation like that.

Until very recently (2/3 weeks, maybe a bit longer now), I've been clingy and seeking her opinion on things. I don't think she quite understands that she no longer has an equal vote in how I spend my time or that I'm ready to move forward. I also hate being told what to do, and some of her suggestions have had the "I know better than you" tone to them so you should do x, spend your time doing x.

So, yeah, there is a little anger in this on my part. Justified, I think, because she's being disrespectful of my ability as a father in being able to plan their time so that it's enjoyable.

That make more sense?

I've let a little aggravation show, but no anger.

BD