I know people are going to argue to keep at it but my opinion is your R/M is so damaged that there is no way in heck ALL of those children are not being negatively affected in some way.
Some M are NOT meant to stay together and with the level of verbal/psychological abuse in your household, I'd say yours is one of them. Think of the example this is setting for those kids. They don't deserve this chaos. I don't care how psychologically damaged your W is. That is NOT your issue right now. You need to protect yourself and those children. That's my 2 cents.
