HD: I implore you to reconsider this bed issue. Think about it long term....if this state of your M goes on for a while and perhaps you will eventually try to reconcile...or not....either way SHE does not have the right to tell you where to sleep. Take it from someone who is still not in her marital bed-once you give someone else that power, it is VERY difficult to take it back. Don't give it. Don't, don't, don't. She can sleep somewhere else. You may have hurt her feelings, she may be fearful, she may be crazy, she may be a b!itch, who cares about any of that....none of it matters on this subject. You didn't do anything inherently wrong and therefore she has NO RIGHT to tell you to leave the bed. She has EVERY RIGHT to ask you and if you concede, well my friend, prepare for the possiblity of sleeping somewhere else for a really long time because Mrs HD does not strike me as the forgiving/compassionate type.
HD, buck up man. Quit letting her determine the state of this R..."if she's upping the ante", "If she said it because she wants me to move out"....WHO CARES????? After all this, what do YOU want??
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
