Do you know anything about bipolar disorder, or manic depressives, or other types of mood swings? Do you know what some of the causes are for narcissism and how narcissists react? MrsHD exhibits signs off all these things. IMO it is only a matter of degree and which best fits her.
My mom used to threaten to cut off funding for college expenses for my brothers and myself. It didn’t happen every month, but several times a year. Its sort of like the heavy smoker saying he is going to stop smoking for good, again. The threat is completely hollow. MrsHD might follow through to some extent for a little while. Maybe she gets mad enough to cut off funding the savings account for a month or two. But that’s about as long as I can see her lasting.
You think MrsHD is tough? She’s NOTHING compared to how my mother used to be.
To a lot of us this behavior is absurd.
Sure it is, but you cannot judge this behavior using the perspective of a “normal” person. Nothing will make sense. You have to get into MrsHD’s shoes to understand her, and unless you’ve personally experienced someone like that, it is hard to do.
Oh, one other thing. It is quite normal for MrsHD to not attack her own daughter right now. She is still young and compliant to MrsHD. MrsHD still feels like the protector, which gives her more reason to be defensive. Her daughter is her purpose. But wait until that girl becomes a teenager. The whole relationship will turn as that same girl becomes a challenge and threat to MrsHD. The sparks will fly then and the daughter will come to realize as I did, that the mother is not someone you can rely on.
