This may be what he hopes you believe to make it easier on him. He doesn't acknowledge your hurt b/c it would make him feel upset and he doesn't like that.
They are soooooo self absorbed and avoid anything that may be yucky feeling! BRother!
The good thing is this: You are going through the process and feeling hurt and pain, sadness, anger and all those hard feelings. You are letting them come and working through them which will get you to the other side in a positive manner. He isn't. His life will be stuck in limbo and will be miserable. The outside may look happy and content, the inside is not. That much I can guarantee. He will never truly be happy and at peace if he doesn't work on the issues that made him walk away and go to OW.
Somehow, that brought me peace. And you know something else that brought me peace? My H had OW#1 and now OW#2 and that almost destroyed me. I was NEVER unfaithful or even close even during this separation.
What I realized one day is that when I do move on w/someone else it will be healthy and real and there will be a committment there that I never truly had w/H. That is a bond that nobody will be able to destroy. H will not have that bond w/anyone else unless he does the hard work that I've done this past year. That brought me peace. I don't need to see him suffer b/c he is slowly spinning into a puddle and is doing it w/o me doing or saying a thing.
I know it hurts. That's good b/c that means you are dealing w/the pain. It will get better.
Hugs and encouragement to you today!
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
