Monogomous Nympho Frustrated by Sexy LD Hubby

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Sorry you speak a slightly different dialect of English to me so I have trouble following sometimes.

I think what is going on in R land for you is a case of EXPECTATIONS. You have expectations of each other and you get pissed off when these are not met. Let go of your expectations and things will get better. It is a lot less exhausting. Do whatever, let him do whatever. If you want to MB it's up to you. If he doesn't that's up to him. Why are you counting when he last got off? Really.

Why are you trying to fantasise about your H when you MB rather than just letting yourself fantasise about whatever. Why are you policing yourself in this way? Why are you policing him? Why are you policing the R? Stop it - it's wearing you out. It strikes me you are quite manic. Who is the big policeman in the sky that's watching you and saying you are a bad person if you fail to


Arrive on time
Do scrap-books
Keep the house spotless
Earn $$$$
Go to the gym for hours at a time
Have a perfect R with your H
Have sex every night

Loon the world will not stop turning if you chill out. Let up on yourself a little, and let up on those around you. Can you see how your high expectations could easily be putting your H off?

Here is something Corri posted to me. It might apply in your sitch too.

I think your H is having a hard time finding his desire in the face of your passion. I think he wants to please you so much (I have to show her I'm a virile, horny man for her), that he actually loses it... sometimes...

I think you need to own your sexuality and not hide it from your H, but maybe you need to do a better job of communicating to him that you do not expect him to be responsible for it. If you think he is, that is part of the problem.

Anyway food for thought.

Fran


p.s.

Yes we've all been mensa'd. If we were thick we would probably just leave our spouses and go and find another one that would fck us. Leaving a trail of destruction behind us and ending up on the Jerry Springer show. But we think we're cleverer than that. It's debatable.

Chrome, I'm going to have a crack at guessing your sun-sign - is it Libra?