All hope is lost/help

[Evie]

I'm in a good place these last few days thanks to all your help advice & support.

Cat - has your H's MLC been going on for 2 yrs? - at what point to we say enough is enough? I admire you for standing by him through MLC & A's. Have you lost respect for him? You must love him so much to put up with it, have you ever considered leaving yourself? I bet you feel you could a book?

How long do people suffer with MLC & does this mean that he may still love me? Are there any success stories out there?

If he is still in the house, is this a positive? I feel we are detached in every way.

Jak - thanks for the advice on how to handle the every day, I was struggling with this. I'm afraid I get angry if we've had a 'chat' and can't speak to him for days and don't want to do his laundry or cook for him, then I cool down and my behaviour seems so petty (probably pushes him further away). I will wait till he suggests an evening out, I dont think he will, as he never did before, but at least I won't be pleading..

I will also do the cycling with the boys, never thought about doing it on my own, I'll need to buy a 'tandem' attachment for the 3 year old.

I feel as if I have tunnel vision and cannot rationalise things that well, every thing to me is in black and white.

If I apply DB, won't he just think i'm burying my head in the sand again?

I don't feel I want to talk anymore because he offers no clarity and says there are no issues. In fact the comment about him been angry has really set me thinking and I have come to the conclusion he is angry about a lot of things, my sons surname on birth certificate, getting married, responsibilities, but especially my daughters from previous M. - they are typical teenagers, the grudge is that he feels walked all over, taken for granted & a mug because their paternal father has not provided that well, so the responsibility has been upto him, he knows we came as a package, but he still feels as if he has been taken for a mug, while my XH enjoys what he must see as a better life.

Thank you for listening. x