I think everyone here, minus cobra and lil, are being very unfair to Mrs. HD. IMHO.
Yeah. She bandied the rape word about and used it in referance to HD. Said she couldnt know if he wasnt drugging and raping her. From breast cupping?
She is a model of fairness, and sanity, and we are not.
The SOP for Women who are really traumatized is to say nothing.
and yet, This woman who shares his bed and has zero fear of him, who we know is a mensch, a lawyer for the government, a 6, is handed this plate of crap. She is so out of control, I cant even verbalize it right.
That conversation would not have ended without anything other then a complete and sincere apology. If she thinks you are capable of raping her, she needs to be with someone else.
Ive played the conquer and surrender sex games, and never ever worried about it. x lied about me about a lot of things during our first seperation, but I cant even imagine her accusing me of rape. I had a gf who was pretty sturdy, right before I left cali, that liked to fight and wrestle with some significant seriousness. She would have bruises on her from my fingertips, and I never worried about such an accusation.
HD may in fact be confidant in his ability to handle it, if she went that route. but why? Risking it shows a lack of well being, and self protection. Im not saying to leave, but it has got to be addressed with a boundary. I ignore a lot of what people say in the heat of the moment. But not this. not from her, not in the manner it was done, not in the intent with which it is carried.
