When to move back in together?

[the girl]

Well, we celebrated our eighth anniversary last night. He sent me a gorgeous bouquet and took me to a fine restaurant where we had a good night. I told him I had to talk about some serious things; he tried to get it out of me but I didn't really get into it because I wanted to have fun.

Today, at his prompting and encouragement, I sent him the two requirements i have come up with if we are to live together again.
One, that he give me proof of the end of the A, including how much contact they have had since he broke up with her. I need closure.
Two, that he write letters to our parents explaining his intentions about moving back in.

I asked for the second because I am tired of answering for him. He has hurt them all deeply and they are very concerned about him manipulating and lying to me all over again.

I am still deeply hurt by my mom's words. I am so, so scared she is right. It also pains me that here is another way I have to pay for this stupid affair: my family never accepting him back. I will suffer with that for years!:(

Will post when I get a response to my requests...
The Girl