Monogomous Nympho Frustrated by Sexy LD Hubby

[loonyqt]

So people... here's the scoop since my hubby came home last Fri.

Warning - uber long and rather windy/boring post ahead:

Friday night: We were late to pick up my daughter/her friend from 1st grade bat b/c he insisted on getting mickyDs on the way home from the airport tho there was snack food in my car. I was very calm and all about his lack of better judgement given the timing, but did indicate that I have not been late since school has been in session for a few weeks. He called me "passive agressive" (new one for me as usually I'm just plain agressive) and it colored the rest of the weekend.

He got some crud intestinal thing that sent him running to the bathroom that manifested that eve and lasted till monday.

I meanwhile got on the rag and decided that I didn't need to tell him that (he hates all the body function stuff anyways) and pretend to just be unavailable should any occasion ahem, arise (don't worry - it didn't).

We faught on Sat. - not sex, just not being nice (him being an ass, mostly) calling me names (he makes sh!t up like bozof) and saying I'm mean (for being upset that he sat building an itunes library most the day and making a mess everywhere he went). I was very, very sad and the highlight of my day was when we met some friends at the bay to go jetskiing, I opened some S. African bottle of wine and the pseudo-cork was leopard print. My husband gave me a kiss and said, "I love you - stop moping" soon after that.

Sun was more of the same. I was also getting his intestinal crud.

From Sat-Sun, there was 2 hugs and 1 kiss.

On Mon (our 7th y wed anniv), I took off for the gym w/out acknowledging the date, and came home 3 hours later to him tring to be nice with a lovely card and stuff (posted already).

Since then, we got healthy as of Tuesday (and yes, I'll attribute some crankiness on both our parts to the crud). We watched Superman returns as it was in high def on hbo and then he was tired when we got to bed together (2 goodnight kisses). In the morning, I masterbated in the spare b/r which he noted and said, "are you still going to be horny later" (HA! as if I wouldn't be should pigs fly and something actually materialize).

Even given the allusions to something happening, yesterday, he waited till I got home from some waxing/shopping adventures from 6-9:45 to go to the gym and then he was tired when we went to bed together. I waited up for him thinking that b/w the earlier allusion and the testosterone pump up at the gym, something would happen. Well, at least we are going to bed together... My son kept us up a lot last night and at 4 in the morning, I blurted out, "we need to see a marriage counselor" and he said "yes, can we go to sleep?" and I asked, why are we so not connected and he said, "why do you bring this stuff up at 4am?" and I went to the other room. He did come get me and said, "I love you can you please sleep in our bed" I said "sure". and went back but couldn't fall asleep so an hour later I got up, went to the other room and masterbated (trying to employ visualization tactics of him as opposed to someone/anyone! else when getting off) and then crawled back into bed again and slept nicely for about an hour before the 4.5 year old woke me up again.

In the morning, I asked him what day was good for me to look into for pot. therapy appts since I'd need to coordinate them/child care, etc. He said, "look, let's work this out ourselves"... I hmphed and said, "we need a plan - I'll put one together if we are going to do that".

He has made an effort the last couple days to say goodbye nicely with i love you pecks before heading out to work (remember, he's only been at this gig since 7/30 - lots of training/stress).

Today - he told me his work plans and times as they impacted evening (good for him - often he tells me after the fact). He had some demo happy hour that should have been done at 6. He calls at 7:35 on my ipone, and 7:40 on the home line (I don't pick up putting the kids to bed) and then 5 minutes later to leave a message on the home line. I call back at 8, and he tells me that the regional director, his boss, him and a couple other guys are getting "one more beer" (and he only had one before) at another location and that he should leave within the hour and will call me if he doesn't (again, good - not always so communicative) and says something to the effect of "wait up for me".

So, here I am typing away wondering what the hell is going in relationship-land.

From my calculations, he hasn't gotten off since Saturday, Aug 25th (if he is to be believed, he doesn't believe in spanking the monkey). I have given him lots and lots and lots of room to make moves in and out of the bedroom no not much result.