Your goals sound really good. Have you ever wondered what would happen if we all just spent more time dancing? My friend said that dancing saved her M when her H had his MLC. I thought about it and yeah, that would have been such an easy solution. My H is spending fun time with the OW because I have basically become a full time babysitter since he has no responsibilities. He takes her camping, to concerts, to dinner and shopping. I am sure I would be a real great girlfriend too but I work and have kids and a home to take care of. I would be way fun if I got to do all those things, but I have no money since myH left me to spend our money on other things. Vicious cycle.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
That's exactly it, MK! Exactly! I have sat and thought the exact same things!
Sometimes /i consider dropping off the kids and taking off for a few days. That would be selfish, and just like him. Then I think of my kids and know it just wouldn't be right. Last timehe had the kids for 6 hours. The baby never got changed and my toddler didn't get dinner til he came home at 8:30 PM. Selfishness is just not an option for us. Our H's are using both our share of selfishness for themselves.
The funny thing is that every time I talk to H, he never fails to say that I am selfish and that he needs to take care of himself right now. OK.
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
Last timehe had the kids for 6 hours. The baby never got changed and my toddler didn't get dinner til he came home at 8:30 PM. Selfishness is just not an option for us. Our H's are using both our share of selfishness for themselves.
The funny thing is that every time I talk to H, he never fails to say that I am selfish and that he needs to take care of himself right now. OK.
My H does not even carry a diaper bag! My S2 has not been potty trained. Both kids have regressed about 6 months anyways now. My H drives all the way o my mom's to change a diaper and stashes the car seats away when his tour of duty is completed.
Yes, my neighbour joked that my H is on a 5 month vacation away from his own kids.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
and again, I count my blessings. the one problem we did have was I was potty training out daughter and he would keep her in a pull up and never even ask if she needed to use the potty. finally I just put her in panties and now he has to pay attention. but I don't think the kids touch a veggie or piece of fruit the whole time they are with him...its munchkins and happy meals all weekend. blech.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
The new breed of Disneyland Dads may be downgraded to MacDonalds Dads. No joke. There are like dozens of Dads at MacDonalds on Friday night and Sunday morning for drop off and pick up. I always assumed it was Moms Day Off. No, it is divorced visitation central.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
there was a really bad movie some years back with paul from mad about you. it was about divorced dads, if I remember correctly, and they all did drop off/pick up at mcdonalds. sad. and now that my family is such a mess, wonder if I should re-watch it.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
