Had a talk to W about the future (selling house, moving, finances, DD etc). Went for about 1 and a half hours. Very friendly, but idiot me had to go on about OM. I just wanted her to think about where it could head and how he was treating her.
Apparently, they don't talk on the phone hardly ever, it is all txt msg and email (when they are not together). She pays her own way when they go out (which is another thing that sounds strange, when we were dating, I would not have her pay anything). Also, eventhough they are in a PA, she has hardly spent any nights at his house (I think maybe none, only when they go away out of town). All this just stinks "booty call". But W can't see this.
And all the things she said I let her down on, he will not be able to "step up". Also, many of the things that I did for her, he does not do.........go figure. Her reasoning "Some people are brought up differently". I think it is a lame excuse.
Then she started asking me whether I had anyone, and "recommending" women to me (that we both know, and some from my work). And she even told me that I could bring one home on Saturday night as she and DD will be spending the night at SIL. (I told her I was meeting up with someone for dinner on Sat, that is how the topic came up). I declined the offer.
All too weird.
I ended the conversation with "Everything is fixable", hoping that this may be the slight opening of the door if she decides to come back. I think in her mind, after the conversation, it is a lost cause for her after everything she has done and all the family members that have been alienated. Also she is so stubborn and has a huge ego, that she would rather continue with OM to prove everyone wrong.
Anyway, just had to vent this, thanks for reading. Hope everyone is having a wonderful day AndyV
