STBXW is out of town again so I called and told her right after I picked D up (who's just been crying from pain all day). I just sent her an update on D's situation via email telling her that she missed her and asked about her a few times before going to bed and that I gave her Ibuprofen etc. but now after I sent the email I'm pissed at myself, she didn't bother to even check on her so why did I bother to email her...god I don't know what's wrong and what's right in this, what a mess this woman's created of this family.
I think it was proper for you to notify your STBXW about the situation with your D. However, once you initially did that, if she did not ask for further details or request an update at a later specified time or upon some event, I don't think you were further obligated. There's nothing wrong with what you did, but I probably would have left it alone. She certainly knows how to contact you if she has a question.
Changing subjects, how are things otherwise? Are you hanging in there OK? Is the D progressing, in a holding pattern, or something else?
