I just had a horrible talk with my H--about finances, of course! He knew I had talked to the lawyer yesterday so came by the house to discuss it. We actually started talking while taking the dog for a walk. I told him I agreed about the arrangements for staying in the house and how we'd divide our investments.
All was ok until I mentioned wanting "alimony" until his reetirement. I feel I deserve it; H disagrees. Is it worth fighting in court???? Not sure.
He told me I wasn't willing to give up anything. I replied that I was giving up our marriage!!!! The worst thing about our discussion was he accused me of being the cause of our failed marriage (SINCE I DID NOT KEEP THE HOUSE CLEAN EVEN THOUGH I KNEW THAT WAS IMPORTANT TO HIM!). To make it worse he said that my inability to keep the house clean was on the same level as him having an affair! GGGGGRRRRRRRR! I did admit that I was a lousy housekeeper, but that my heart was much more important than my housekeeping skills. THe whole time I remained calm and cool. I don't even feel like crying now, although the whole conversation makes me very sad.
