If cadesmom34 is still around, she can give you a good view of the situation from your wife's point of view.
She may be more attracted to you now that you've shown yourself willing to draw a line in the sand. Manliness is sexy to the fairer sex. It may not just be an act borne of desperation.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.