Just looking through things here. Let me try and answer your questions.
I can come up with a competing hypothesis. Your wife misses her family. She misses home. She said there was no one and she was doing this for her. I could make a case for someone who is trying to get their s**t together. Maybe she is thinking of going home.
I wouldn't waste my time hunting this stuff down. You could try to find evidence and screw things up. If you want to have a chance to save this marriage, you are just going to have to take an affair off the table. You are going to have to believe her.
Bruce, if you snoop, all you will be doing is driving yourself nuts. You have said that you need to work on yourself. Do it. Because no matter what you may or may not find out, fixing Bruce is where your success in life lies.
Do I know what your wife is doing? Of course not and I am not going to make up the story before it happens. What if that missing puzzle piece is just a missing piece of the sky.
Let it go. DB would tell you not to snoop. Take care of the things you control. Is it possible you could find out the worst some day? Sure. Is it possible it is just as she says? Sure. Do you really want to jump to a conclusions? I think not. Should new information come to light, we'll cross that bridge when we get to it. Let's just cross the bridges in front of us for the time being.
Hang in there. Perhaps a church-based group of separated people can help.
