I am new to this forum. I’ve been married for 20 years and have decided that it is time to move on. My story is as follows. For the first 15 years of my marriage I was always the HDH and married to a LDW. For many years I was the one to continuously pursue the intimacy in our marriage. Throughout the years I would express to my spouse the need of intimacy and the frustration that her rejection would cause to me. I would recommend counseling for both of us or if she would be more comfortable she could go alone. During our discussions she would comment that I was the one with too much drive and that I needed help. I starting to second guess my desires and consulted with my doctor about the issue. We’ll everything checked out fine and he suggested that I continue to work at it. And I did, with no success. Because of the lack of affection I started to drift away from her to the point that I no longer pursued her. After years of attempting to resolve the problem I’ve decided to leave. We’ll when she saw that I was longer interested and started the conversations of leaving she has done a complete 360. I find this behavior very hypocritical and insulting. Now she is all over me. She’s gone from LDW to HDW!!! However, I am emotionally in a different place! I have no desire to even try at this point in time and I think that the behavior is not genuine.
