Get me on a smoother ride........Need Advice

[fightingirish]

Sue,

I hope you are gaining some ground.. its sounds like it anyway..

H,

I wouldn't put the wedding ring on just yet.. I can't remember is she wearing hers??

TAL

[LL44]

Hey Sue, good job not 'pushing' the phone call past its prime, ending it on your own. That's key, shows that you aren't lingering. Its hard to do.

I wouldn't discuss the rings again and do what you feel is right. I am still married, so I wear my ring.

[SueS]

lwb-

Yeah, I could feel the "silence" was about to start so I had to get off.

He'll ask where I'm going on Sunday when I leave to go pick up my other ring. You're right. I don't want to take my wedding ring off. The only reason I'm taking it in is because a small stone fell out and the jeweler showed me that I risk losing others if it doesn't get fixed. I'll have on the other ring that he gave me, so as long as I have one on that finger that he gave me, I'll feel okay. My H could go either way on this. He'll either be a butthead and make a comment about me getting it fixed or I'd hear it from him that I don't care because I haven't taken care of it and I let stones come out!!!

SueS

[LL44]

I typed this out awhile back, but the day after H told me about A, my big stone fell out of my ring. I was just sitting at work and out it fell. Ironic much? H saw it on the desk and took it in for me without me asking. I picked it up by myself a week after he told me it was ready. I wanted to play the 'is she going to wear her ring' game, I really did. But on the way home, I decided that I am going to be as honest as I can during this time.

Don't think a part of me didn't want to say: Hey, H, while you drop my ring off at the jeweler to be repaired, drop yourself off too, see what they can do to fix you.

[SueS]

Don't think a part of me didn't want to say: Hey, H, while you drop my ring off at the jeweler to be repaired, drop yourself off too, see what they can do to fix you.

lwb- You are so funny! Thanks for making me laugh. I've thought about that myself a few times!!

My mom keeps in better touch with my best friend than I do. She forwarded me an email from my BF the other day in regards to BF's son going to college. She forgot to erase most of the message.....or maybe she wanted me to see it. They were messaging about me and H. My BF knows that my H has been talking to OW, but my mom doesn't. My BF hasn't told my mom, but they were talking about my sitch in general. My mom was with me when I dropped off my ring. My BF had asked my mom how Steve & I acted during that vist. That was the weekend we went to the wedding (Fri) and movie (Sat.). My mom said.....Well, they went to a wedding together and then we kept D3 so they go spend Sat. night at a movie and have some time together. Then she said....Sue took a couple of rings in to have an estimate done on repairs (including her wedding ring). She told my BF that she wondered if it was my H's idea and an anniversary gift to have them fixed. HHHHAAAAA!! My mom.....how sweet to think those positive thoughts!! Gotta love her!!

SueS

[LL44]

Gotta love our mommies, wanting us happy even now when we are all grown up.

[SueS]

Okay....lwb, I know I said I was signing off from your thread to go workout......but I had to add this special thing that my H said to D3.

We called him at work so D3 could say goodnight. They were talking about school & started talking about one of her friend's brother or sister. She said.....daddy, I want a sister. He said...you do?....Well, if you do, it's going to have to be by another mother and then he laughed. REAL NICE of the JERK to say to our D3.

H had to go, but called back a few minutes later. He said...good thing you didn't hear my comment to D3. I said....I didn't have to hear it, she told me what you said. He said....what did she say. I repeated it and he laughed. He said....Oh, she's so funny....I hope she doesn't go saying that at school. I just said....yeah, real nice!

There goes that button pushing again. He just wants me to go off and over react......like I'm doing here!!! LOL. Just don't want to give him the satisfaction.

lwb....we'd said we were done with kids, but just before this whole darn thing happened, I was thinking about talking to him about having a 2nd. I know you guys were trying. Me, just thinking......man that sucks!!

Boy did he give me the motivation to go work my butt off with my new video!!!

Have a good night!!!

SueS

[SallyM]

wow, sue, I don't know much about your situation, but what a rotten thing to say...and to a 3 year old! not exactly an age where sarcasm or subtlty works well.

have a good w/o!

[Dr LOve]

SueS,

Sorry about your H remark. Makes me ashamed being a man. Not all of us are so stupid.
A good anser would have been serves hin right if she does repeat it at school.

What a jerk

The Good Husband

[LL44]

What a jerk!!!! My kids always ask for a sibling and even my jerk of a husband knows to answer them respectfully. You can totally tell your H regretted it when he called you back. Fog, I say. FOG FOG FOG

No overreacting. You rock!!!

Yes, it hurts to think I might be having another baby right now. But everything for a reason, right?