I don’t know what the “Plathian boot” is, but I find it hard to believe that even MrsHD wants sex with a man as brutal as her father. I think that is absurd. Assuming her father was brutal, it might be that she holds a grudge toward men because of this. But while she would like a more gentle caring man, not having grown up with such a role model makes it very uncomfortable for her to be around one. A gentle caring man means she must open up and be caring too. THAT is the scary part for her and that is what she is having her internal struggle over.
I was referring to Sylvia Plath's much anthologized poem "Daddy"
Quote:
Not God but a swastika So black no sky could squeak through. Every woman adores a Fascist, The boot in the face, the brute Brute heart of a brute like you.
I had a gentle father but I can understand what is meant by the vibe of this poem. I was sexually attracted to my 2bx because of his brutal personality but emotionally damaged. My father was warm and affectionate so all I need to feel emotionally vulnerable or open in a relationship is physical affection. My 2bx, for various reasons, was not able to be very physically affectionate so he tried to make me emotionally vulnerable by making me cry. I like my "just sex" on the jolly side of rough (laugh when I tease you)or the rough side of jolly (smile as you pin me down)which pretty much corresponds with how my father used to play with me. The fact that my H went quite a bit darker than this wasn't enough to turn me off because I could bring the jolly (which maybe turned him off). So I guess I buy into the whole Electra concept thing even though the thought of my father as a sexual being is totally "Blech" to me. I think it's more that your father models for you how a man ought to behave.
Therefore, I think MsHD might have some pretty dark *ss sexual fantasies if she allowed herself to have them. Probably she doesn't and that's why she's not sexual.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
