Hi - I think that there has to be individual and couples counselling, ideally with the same C. That is what my C recommends.
My C thinks that my h may have been sexually abused as a child and completely repressed it. This is actually possible, as there is a padophile in my h's family [only learnt that about 10 years ago! and not sure if h's mom knows this.
I think many of them do have intimacy issues, that can be sexual as well. Do come and post and vent. You sound like a person I would like to get to know. There are so many great people on these boards.
I remeber reding somewhere on teh MLC resources that if they come back 'too soon' whatever that means, and don't complete the journey then they may well run again, causing even more heartbreak. My hs has tried to come home 4 tims now, and each time he lasted 3-4 weeks. I knew right away he wasn't ready, but provided him with a safe haven while he regrouped, because I care about him, even though he is behaving like a sh*t.
Don't know if he will ever come back, but I know I can live my life with or without him. Barbiedoll posted elsewhere today that we have to complete ourselves as well. She said that the song about needing someone to make you complete annoyed her. I agree.
