Why is it that everything us (LBSrs) do the WAW/WAH think it has to revolve around them? When I got my new PC several months ago h said I got it so I can check up on him??WTH? H has his own laptop so its not like he uses my PC.
Thanks CVA &MMH, you guys sure know how to get a girls spirits up!!!
All of us can prolly say that our stichs made a good growing effect on us.
I never had given up, I had all the chance in the world to do many many different things and to be with many many diff W and chose not to.
My sitch made me realize many different things but it did show me how much to more to care for D. D and I are happier now than ever and D likes for me to be around W more than ever.
I will have to post D's remarks from a situation that happend yesterday. Going to go get lunch now.
See the W, Listen to the W, but dont Speak back to the W. Bridle your tongue...
Hey MMH! I wasnt gonna psot, nothing new or exciting.............no sex,CVA!
I took two vacation days off since I worked on Labor day & I have been neglecting some things of the every day life that us LBS tend to do when you were so caught up on their world. Besides paying some bills & organizing things up a bit(paperwork sure does tend to pile up fast). I bougth me a new bathing suit bikini(since my old one was stolen from the hotel).
So, I laid out in my backyard for about one hour before picking up the kiddos up from school. Tomorrow after my D10 doc appointment I plan on going to the beach before the summer is completely gone!
Tonight is H's regular night to visit the kids. I dont know if he is coming for we normally talk by IM from work.
Im ok, I was told by my therapist that if I need additional sessions I can contact her since my progress has been so great. There is no additonal need for theraphy. I wonder! But Im ok I am NOT pushing the W anymore and hence has turned my life around whether I am still M or the R goes sour I am fully prepared for it.
See the W, Listen to the W, but dont Speak back to the W. Bridle your tongue...
Nothing exciting to report other than H came over 4 his regular visits w/the girls after I didnt receive a reponse from my IM(h stayed w/ away message). So I got a clue & thought he was pissy and assumed he wasnt coming. H called my cell when we were returning from the store and I had D10 answer it. H asked where we were & D said we are on the way home. H said good I am home. When we returned H was in his room and did not come out to say hi. I started to cook and he came in to throw something away inthe trash. H did not even acknowledge me as he looked pist. When I finished I asked himif he was eating or eating elsewhere. He barely made eye contact w/ me and simply said no. H stayed the entire time in his room, looking through family albums??
H was about to leave when D7 came over to my room & told me she asked daddy if he was moving back & he said No b/c mommy and I dont get along. This is the first time he has ever said no to the girls b/c he has always given them hope. H never wanted me to tell them he would never return. Oddly enought it didnt"hurt" me like it would of months ago. While this H starts to leave opens the garage door and minutes later returns mumbling something I did not understand, By thsi time I was on my cell phone when H sees me and mumblems and then makes a uturn back to leave. D7 tells me she had asked H if he was gonna give me hug goodbye(normally he kisses me goodbye) and H said NAH....
So, I dont know what his deal is now...still on this nevrending rollercoaster....
Well, I hope everyone a good weekend. If the weather is good I plan on taking my three girls to the beach and try to forget about this drama for awhile.
I dont know how to put in a link, but thought this article from eharmony I received was very helpful especially to understand the mentality of "angry" men/husbands.
There are also other great articles- a must read!!! Check out marriage@eharmony.com.
The other day H calls me in a rage b/c I switched the electricity to my name but "left" him w/ the remainder balance of $400. I AGAIN explained to him what the lady told me I had to do in order to put it on my name. I had to pay at least half the PAST DUE first. He was clearly so upset he was not making any sense saying he had the electric company on hold on the other line he was gonna "cut" me off put it back on his name??? I said why would u want to do that? I told him before he could do that they would make him pay the past due,but of course he never beleives me.He asked when I pay th rest?? We had agreed earlier that I would HELP him w/ the rest. Here I am not able to catch up on my own bills (no child support) AND helping him by taking over a bill.He didnt like my answer of I dont know how much I can help u with? We got off the phone and then he kept calling me back. I did not answer. I can not talk to him when he is a rage.
Yesturday he kept leaving nasty text messages and calling me names. All I said was havent you learned by now that meaness will get you nowhere? And w/ this attitude you want me tojump up for joy and help w/ the bills? I still will b/c I am not revengeful unlike you.
H came over last night for his regular visit and brought some boxes and packed up some of his books and things that have been in the extra room for the past 5 months, but left it all there. God that really hurt....why does it still hurt so much when he treats me so badly??
After he took the girls to Mickey D's and returned he was calm and in a better mood. He told the girls to go get their Pj's on and he was giving me the look- the lets get it on look!! We use to have great make up sex!!!BUT I resisted...Yeah good for me!!! That was hard.
I will be back to post more later on our very differnt freindly email from this morning!!
Good for you! He has to learn that he cannot keep treating you this way. Question though, how did he find out about the electric bill thing - was it something you brought up?
