Wedding band now gone, hers that is -

[lester]

I agree with NewHorizons and whatis. I hate to ever recommend pulling the plug but if she was getting drunk and beating the crap out of the kids the decision wouldn't be so hard would it? You are clearly in an unhealthy R and for both you and the kids it really is time to get your ducks in a row and move ahead on your own.

Remember, DB is not a suicide pact.