Mojo is saying he needs to force her to be vulnerable.
Have you ever tried to make a scared wild animal succumb to affection by forcing affection on it? If MrsHD has been traumatized as I suspect, there is no way she is going to let anyone force her to do anything, including making her vulnerable. That will literally feel like a life or death situation to her. Go ask Corri how she would have reacted to such a scenario a couple of years ago. My guess is that if the “forcing” had triggered any of her past feelings of trauma, it would have resulted in a kicking, screaming fight for life. Showing strong boundaries is not the same as forcing something on another person.
