I wish you well with the C situation. Must be a tense time, even more than "normal." I hope you and your W can get on the road to recovery, no matter how long that road is.
How did you find a solutions based MC? I like Michele's approach. I've delved deep into childhood issues, really for the first time in my life. That's been good, and hard, but in the end what has to happen for a new marriage is that we have to behave differently toward one another.
Yes, Mile High, the sense that a new relationship will be better based on the work I (and you) are doing does lift my spirits. I'm still standing for my M, but I'm not naive. It may be over, and I must make my changes for myself and go from there wherever that may be. I now live like a monk in this apartment, but I don't mind for now. I'm in pain over what is happening to my W and to us, but I also feel like I'm gaining my soul at last. No more denial or auto pilot through life. The lights are coming on.
IMP: well said. I couldn't agree more! Tonight's the draft!!! I like Rudi Johnson too. A backfield of Henry and Johnson would be just fine by me!!!
