Advice & Support Needed

[SueS]

Pamar-

I try to tell myself that since I have these horrible, uncomfortable feelings and yucky days that it means I still care.....that I'm still breathing. I'm scared of a day coming when I go numb and feel nothing.

I posted a question asking if anyone has NOT confronted their H about their A....at all. That was a mistake. More questions running through my mind than before. Some say that it will only go on if I don't confront.....some say it will fade faster if I don't confront. I guess I should look and see what my heart tells me. I try like heck not to look at that phone. I know....the calls will be there/not be there whether I look or not. Good for you & husband for not looking. I need your strength.

I really wonder if OW's H knows or notices anything. I think he's like me. We keep going with life, trying to work hard & keep things together, getting most of our enjoyment from being with our spouse/kids. Our spouses are the ones that go out and party. If I'm right about who OW is (99% sure), I'll tell you that her H does a lot with those kids, including what most of us see as the mom's duties. We've been the their house twice. There's no doubt that she loves them, but he really does the primary care/duties for them.

Sorry to have hijacked your thread to vent.

SueS