I snet another email tonight and asked her if she got the pay receipts she asked for. I emailed them and heard nothing, but I also asked her if I could start saving some cash here in the last email and she didn't respond, which really pisses me off.
Oh the pain of expectations. Don't ya think it's time to expect that she'll not respond. See, then you won't have to get pissed if she doesn't respond, and you can be elated if she does. That's something that YOU can work on, it's in YOUR control, that she has NO control over.
It's a tough spot sharing finances, but being separate at the same time. I think it's a fair bet that whatever money you send home will not be available to you when you get there.
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I don't want to have to go back home and live in that [censored]&y little garage apartment.
I hear ya man, and I agree. One thing that was healthy for me was to recognize and accept reality.
My reality was that I was renting a small condo, and W was in our big house. This went on for almost two years. I really wanted to keep the big house because it was perfect for us if we were together. But reality was that at that time she had no intentions of us being together. So, we acted in reality. We sold the big house that we both loved, and bought two small houses.
Seems like your reality is that she has no intentions of being together with you. She's out right now otherwise she'd be responding to you! So I think you need to accept that reality and plan accordingly. You don't need her permission on some things, like setting aside money. So set aside enough for you to rent a nicer place when you get home and enough time to sell your current home and buy two smaller homes.
Now trust me, that does'nt mean the end of your M. It just means you're living in reality. The truth is that reality changes every day. Today's reality is different than tomorrows. You W could turnaround, change, anytime there's no doubt about that. But it's not real until it happens. Until then, hope for the best, and plan for the worst.
God Bless,
COG
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