Could someone PLEASE help me understand

[Have Faith]

We are in a similar situation. My H's OW is 15 years his junior and 24 years mine. The only way you can compete is not to. You have to do things for yourself. If you need to lose weight, then do it. Start working out if you don't already. Wear different clothes or step them up. Don't go for trash, go for class. Change your hair style. I think you get what I mean. Believe me, he will take notice.

When I have asked my H the same question, he too has said that her being attracted to him is an ego boost. It mades him feel good. But, he has also on more then one occasion said that the age difference is a BIG negative as it relates to a long-term relationship. She wants to be on the go all the time. Your H will over time see that they really do not have much in common. I love to golf and so does H. OW doesn't want anything to do with it. Says she will never want anything to do with it. These are the things that eventually destroy the fantasy world they live in. Mine realizes that, but he is too emotionally connected still.

GALing is so important. He must see you as independent and able to get along with or without him. You maturity is an asset. He will see the foolish things she says and does. At 23, I bet she tires of him pretty quickly. The 180 is good. Keep doing it.

Welcome to the board.

Faith