If HD seriously feared a rape charge... all you have to do is consider for a few moments the scenario, and anyone can see that if Mrs. HD really took it to filing charges... SHE is the one who would... have mud in her face. It is SO preposterous that I think it can ONLY been seen as a zinger, and not for one second to be taken seriously.
I don't think that this is a safe assumption to make. Mrs. HD is a divorce attorney. Charges of marital rape are taken very seriously in the judicial system.
And in a generic response:
I don't view her as a cruel monster. I don't think HD should threaten divorce. I am not advocating that he go off in some over-the-top-emotional response to her. I am not quietly gathering a rope for a lynching.
I do believe she will act cruel and abusive in an effort to "win". I believe this because she has done so repeatedly. And from all accounts, HD fails to ever address her behavior.
You don't use children (in ANY fashion, IMO) to score points in a flipping spat. I just see this as more significant than some folks seem to do.
IMO, it doesn't matter *what* the reason is for her actions and behaviors in that it is the actions and behaviors that must be addressed. Knowing "why" can be helpful in feeling empathetic and understanding, but (to use an extreme ex.) I don't care if a mother beats her children because she was abused as a child, or because she is mentally ill, or because she has an alcoholic husband, or because she's under a mountain of stress - beating the children must be stopped. The "why" can be dealt with later.
She is accustomed to her preferences to be inviolate. HD is accustomed to not having any boundaries.
It is not acceptable in a marriage to use whatever sharp emotional object you might have nearby in your arsenal.
IMO, he is culpable for his part in allowing this to go on as long as he has. When does HD stop tolerating his wife's behaviors?
That's up to HD. For me, you don't toss my children into your pathetic little tiff without a getting a strong boundary in return. Not fury, not rage, not threats, not yelling and screaming - I never advocated that.
Are we thinking that people are really unable to express to their spouse "I am angry about this" without being fully in control of their emotions?
