Now I've done it

[nephartiti]

OK, today is a new day! Time to re-focus.

1. Don't call or e-mail. (Do sending pics of the kids count? Yes, no pics!) He'll have to call if he wants to see them.
2. If he calls, don't answer (haven't been able to do this yet, but today is a new day)
3. When we do talk or see each other, keep it short and sweet. Act pleasant and "As if". DON'T TALK ABOUT R or OW!!!!! That's a big NO NO NO ( a bit of toddler talk).
4. If I get angry or start thinking of OW, I will clean the house instead of calling, pursuing, or checking up on him. If I'm driving, which seems to be a bad time for thinking. I will turn the music on and sing loudly until I get it out of my system. If I do slip and check up on him, I will stop being stupid and stop confessing to him that I did it! But I'm not gonna slip. I'm not gonna slip.
5. I will not facilitate any further steps towards separation. He will have to do the work. Considering he still hasn't managed to open a new bank account after 2 weeks, I really can't see him filling out the divorce papers! I think he is bluffing b/c I was pressuring him. He's going to expect me to fall into old patterns and do it myself. Sorry, buddy, kiss my 180!
6. Print up this plan and read it over and over again. Tape it to my forehead or something. Well, maybe that's just a tad too overboard.

Have a great day everyone!