Oh Ponygirl I am so sorry to hear about your doggie. I am glad that she is OK. It is even worse to hear how your H reacted to it all.

It is good that you are realizing that he may not come back. That is something I am trying to do right now. I myself can not understand how even if they are not in love with us anymore they can act the way they do sometimes to us. I think mine would have more compassion for a stranger at this point than me. Why do they need to do that to us? I am wondering on some level if mine is not mad at me for letting things get this far and not being able to pick up on it beforehand and fix the issue then. I honestly think he feels I should have realized how bad our sitch was and corrected it before he had to say anthing

That is the way our R went. I would fix everthing but I honestly had not a clue things were as bad as they were. So maybe by having to have him say something he is angry at me for it. I am just babbling but could that be it?

Ponygirl hang in there and keep your chin up this NG sounds very promising to say the least. But be aware of a rebound R as I hear those can be worse. You will get through this.


Lissie