[In4Ride2]

Angelica,

Thanks so much. I thought his MLC last time was the most painful thing I would ever have to face, and it was more difficult to deal with than my own mother passing away last year. For the past couple of years I have been so thankful that it was over. It's just heartbreaking to start again.

H was not interested in counseling for the two of us since then. He does however get plenty of counseling for himself with a therapist and in AA meetings. I still don't think they ever touch on the real issues. I sometimes even think there is a big secret in his past too because he has what I think is a fear of sex also. But let's not go there yet.

I did mention on my thread something that didn't register before now - that I think he actively avoided getting into any therapy where we would both get to talk.

I will try to catch up with everyone here since it's been so long. I did learn an incredible amount last time. I guess what I need now is some feedback if the same dbing can even work a second time.

Thanks much.