I was in the MLC forum and moved to infidelity only because my sitch truly didn't seem as bad as most and got much more respose in the infidelity forum. I am now in piecing forum.
I do think that there is no more EA/OW but, i do think H is still depressed to a point about that.
I know he is trying in his own way to get through this and that is why I have not brought up R talk. But H is not a talker so I will have to bring it up soon and let him know what I want out of this marriage for it to work.
H was never mean to me verbally but just very diconnected from the marraige. He wouldn't talk to me do anything with me, just treated me like i wasn't there. Looked miserable all the time depressed and so on. I waited almost a year before i even said anything to him. DB'd kind of without knowing what DBing was. I then found all of you.
I am starting to find out how hard iot is to piece. You need to still GAL and still try to reconnect. You should be able to talk R but, you still worry about pushing them the other way.
I did one session with DB coach but it is expensive for me and to do it without H knowing is hard but, might do another. I did see a very good C who is solution oriented, and lets me still call her when I need to just to talk.
"I told you so" Not a good thing. WHat is it they say? better to be happy and wrong than right and unhappy.
I wouldn't want to move again either if i was you. I understand though what you are saying. You do need to be happy for you. Do what you need to to be happy. IF H wants to fine but you will either way if you decide you want to.
VC Hope you are better. I looked for you on my E-mail yesterday.
How's your PMA today? Mine is still up but H seems a little distant this morn. It's so crazy how aware I am about that now. Or how much I just might think he is(he might be just fine).
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
