Tucson or Bust, part 3

[MJontheMend]

I think it's all pretty straight-forward psychologically. HD is a great Dad. He reminds me of my Dad. MsHD had a cr*ppy Dad. She married HD for his great-Dad-like-traits because she probably consciously wanted a father for a child she would have and she unconsciously wanted a father for herself. She became a lawyer who advocates on behalf of children (right?) because she wants to protect her own inner wounded child against bad Daddy. Her better nature wants to care for her stepchildren but her recently exhibited weak nature is jealous of her stepchildren because she wants HD's fatherly care for herself. When HD behaves in ways she views as childish or sexual, she is greatly angered because "Good Daddy" is a mature caregiver and non-sexually loving. I guess I don't know what to suggest except maybe that she needs a lot of IC with a really good older male therapist.