Thanks for your recent posts. They've given me a lot to think about.
It's especially hard to deal with WAS's flight from commitment. I suppose they think we LBS did our own "walking," and that may be true too. I know in my case I was not the husband I should have been. I see more clearly than ever my own faults, and how my adult behavior has been shaped by unexamined forces from the past. Doesn't excuse my sins, but like you I need to know things about her and myself in order to heal.
It's so hard when they won't talk to us like adults. My WAW doesn't want any R talk, and I'm respecting that. I am distancing, working on myself, and quietly standing for the marriage. We've had a few brief phone conversations over the past three months, and I've been able to trickle out in email a few brief things I'm working on in therapy, but she's a blank wall right now. I feel like I'm one of those astronomers who is waiting for a signal from the great beyond! I'm moving on with GAL, so don't think I'm just sitting here all day waiting for the phone to ring or obsessively checking email hoping for a message from her.
