Wife left, wants a divorce, what can I do?

[In4Ride2]

I know money is tough, but you cannot afford to not get at least one of the books, probably Divorce Remedy. Maybe you could check out the library, or if you have to, go to Borders and read it in the store - not something I would normally condone, but desparate times call for desparate measures. Don't forget - a lot of the material is on these forums - read it all.

I had great PMA (positive mental attitude) yesterday, and today it's in the toilet. You have to accept that it is a total roller coaster ride of ups and downs, and you don't always know why. You just have to accept that and learn not to take any action based on what you're feeling at that moment.

For example, yesterday I was feeling positive enough to send a simple Happy Birthday email to my H, thinking I was letting him know I was not being angry and spiteful. During the night, my mood changed to - screw him - let him wonder and/or worry what's going on and continue no contact. The way I'm feeling right now, I don't want to relieve any guilt he might be feeling, by making him think I'm OK with him just walking out with no warning. I'm guessing now that I was the last to know, because now I realize none of his AA buds have called the house for over a week now.

If you are wondering what to do, chances are you should do nothing, but try to relax and think about yourself. That's what I'm doing even though I'm angry and hurt enough to go in the garage and take a baseball bat to his Harley.

I'm forcing myself to stop any action at all and think long and hard before I take a step. You will want to do the same and think about whether the step will get a positive reaction from someone who's running from you and only has their own needs as their priority right now.

For today, I'm going to stick to my plan to do nothing for the next 12 months, until we meet separation qualification for a no-fault divorce. Tomorrow I may decide I can't live without the as*h***.

Maybe this will make you smile - when I walked into my workplace this morning, feeling low, guess what was playing on the radio
"I will survive, walk out the door, go now go, I don't need you anymore". I just started laughing.