Last night W took a ride to look at a local rental. We were talking about it a bit and I said we should look at our finances first to see what she could afford. She turned it around and suggested we should see what I could afford. ???? Didn't she offer the other night that she would be the one to move out?
Also I asked her again about the friend that had wandered and returned. I had sounded at first as though the friend had made the decision that her family was more important. After asking more questions it now sounds as though the relationship went on for almost two years and it was the OP that broke it off leaving my W's friend broken hearted. Not quite the example I was hoping for.
On good note, I did convince my W to do the questionnaire from the 5 Love Languages book. I was surprised by her classification as Words of Affirmation. I had thought it would be Quality Time as that is what she specifically asked for in the past when we would have R discussions. This gives me something to work with going forward.
