If I am the one?

[thegoodfight]

Not much progress in my Sitch other than my W. is starting to talk to me about everything. She told me about somebody at work that hits on her all the time. He has a pregnant wife at home! I listened intently and then walked away after she was done talking. She came back to me and said give me some credit I would never get involved with him or anyone like him.

I indicated I know that it isn't that I feel for his wife and what a shame he isn't growing up. That is what bothers me! She said she wished things were better with us, but just doesn't feel anything. Although she did slip and say I love you last night when I paid her a compliment. I don't read too much into it. Not sure I think maybe her head and her heart are at odds right now. I still think she is so hurt and mad. But I have to keep the door open otherwise knowing how she is, if the D. happens and when it starts to effect our S. she will be even worse and more resentful.

There has been some success in the past when I take our S. out of town to his grandparents and suggest she takes some time alone. She seems to miss things, I guess I am not sure what to do. We are talking more and she smiles more, (her ring is still off). She says she feels more honest saying it is over. We are just friends and maybe we can live together for a couple of years. She said she worries I won't treat her as well when and if she starts doing things on her own. (I take this to mean dating). She definitely talks alot more about attention she is getting outside of the home. Never made much mention of it in the past or she would dismiss it by saying they don't have a chance. No qualifications to her comments anymore.

Yesterday she also stated that she sometimes is sick and tired of being the peace keeper. She always has to be nice and make the peace, especially since her sister is going through one of the ugliest divorces I have ever seen. By the way both parents are doing all of the don'ts in many articles. I don't know it is almost like she likes this, we had a lack of Intimacy before and it is almost like this is perfect for her because now she doesn't have to try. We can just be friends and parents.

I look at our S. and I can't stand the thought of not being there for him, but I also know I can't live like this forever and I don't think over time we can date and just not talk about it as she suggested. I doubt doing that will make things better.

Still no talk of filing or getting help through a Counselor. It is like she is fine with limbo for now.

Any thoughts or suggestions?