Ok here we go.........

[mark in uk]

Hi NDDT, i have learnt anything you say or do does not make a difference. I did the usual. My wife and daughter have been gone 5 months. She acts like a 32 year old teenager. THEY DO NOT THINK ABOUT THE FUTURE. MY WIFE HAS STATED THIS, THEY JUST THINK ABOUT TOMMORROW. The head is well buried in the sand, and they want to be friends. I think this makes them less guilty about ripping our kids away, and destroying our kids stability for the future. I worry i will be replaced by another male role model in the future, that does not bother W. She says that i can still be a good Dad. Yeah right.

I have a WAW friend, she is a single mum, and tells me she did all the same. She now after 2 years of independence, men who have turned out to be users and the loneliness has crept in.She wants him back. But he has a new family, new woman, new kid etc. She wants to shake my wife into some sense. But it doesnt help.

Its time im afraid more than anything. I know i will have a long struggle now without them. But in the end that was her choice, and i am sure one quiet night she will think about that, AND if i am a yummy chocolate cookie man by then, well perhaps. Just be a good Dad, limited i know , but just try. I find making little comments about how you miss your daughter and how you wish you could be a full time dad sink in a little.

The WAW amazes me really. We made a child together, mums are supposed to want to want the very best for their kids. Divorce is not the answer, working, effort and responsibility to sort out the marriage is.