Second new development: H just told me that he's decided news of our (emotional) separation is "not ready for prime time," so he's decided not to tell his parents when they visit next month and he's put his ring back on to avoid answering questions, since there's nothing definite enough to share.
He said he's been living in his head with this for a while, but it's still fairly new to me. "We're not there yet."
I don't take this as any kind of sign, except that perhaps he's coming back down to earth in terms of what this might look like from my perspective. Positive, possibly?
I asked if he was still interested in counseling, and he said depends. Sure, someone to help facilitate hard discussions would be good, but if it were a pro-marriage person trying to convince him he's wrong, that "might meet with some resistance." Wants our goals to be clear. Unfortunately, they're diametrically opposed.
I think I'm going to go ahead and interview counselors, since I'm having such a hard time figuring out how to say what I want to say to him and I think I'd feel safer with a witness. : )
