But there was nothing #3

[Yoyowife]

I knew about the pictures, but it's been a while since he has said anything.

I can't remember if it was him or someone else who had found the pics and seriously thought about revealing them to the OM's workplace. I think it was someone else on here, but it goes back to what I was saying that you want to ruin the OP because they have played such a major role in ruining your life.

[nephartiti]

Sometimes I question my sanity. My H was telling me today, again, that all of our problems are my fault, and I actually apologized! Then I started thinking. Wait a minute, I didn't forsake my vows. He had a R w/ an OW, he abandoned his family, he punched me. How is it my fault he spent 5 days in jail? Because I was stressed? Because I had post partum depression? Because I got royally ticked off when I found out he was cheating?

But he still denies there is OW. They are just "friends." Is it possible that I made a huge deal out of nothing? After all he only spent 300 min on the phone with her in 2 weeks, didn't come home several nights, and suddenly realized that maybe he doesn't love me anymore. Msybe A is just my imagination?

I never thought I'd put up with this either, but here I am begging for more b/c I still belive thre is hope. Because I still love the idiot, and I want my kids to have an unbroken home.

My H always spoke badly of cheaters too. Wonder how he lives with himself. Oh, yeah, it's all my fault.

"Ya never know what is going to happen."

[Yoyowife]

I never thought I'd put up with this either, but here I am begging for more b/c I still belive thre is hope. Because I still love the idiot, and I want my kids to have an unbroken home.

I think just about all of us can identify with your statement. It makes you appreciate the saying that goes "Never judge a man until you have walked a mile in his shoes." I feel like I've walked a million miles in those shoes.

[LL44]

The only thing that stopped me from telling OW's H is their kids. I didn't want to be the cause of their broken home.

Its bad enough I know the OW, but to have pictures? Oh dear.

nepharti, I think your gut is right. If its not physical, its an emotional attachment, don't you think? Oh and I have done the apology thing for sure. But these days I will only apologize for what I have done in our marriage to get us to this spot, and will make clear that I will never apologize nor accept responsibility for his A.

[Dr LOve]

Hey Cali,
Everything is ok,W does not have the patience to do math homework with son. The Computr programer math wiz!! GRRRRR
I am losey with math but he is here beside me and we are working through this.w is in livingroom playing sudiko inher palm.

Husband

[Dr LOve]

Hey cali,
I'll get to my E-mail later. I'm headed back to my place now.

Husband

[Kali]

fun. i love math. my best subject.

i am beat, going to bed. nite all

[nephartiti]

Yes, thank you. I trust my gut feeling, but when he lies, I question myself. A part of me wants to believe him.

He definitely had an EA, is still having. I believe its a PA. I think he's staying with her.

[runningoutoftime]

,W does not have the patience to do math homework with son. The Computr programer math wiz!! GRRRRR

Sheesh! Just hire a tutor. They are worth every cent.

[Dr LOve]

Hey root,

My point was that my W knows math really well. and she did not have the patiantce. So I had to struggle with OUR son. When I went into the room my W was in she was playing a game on her palm