OK, so maybe a little like father like son. I'm not saying to talk to him to get him to understand your POV. That won't happen, at least not at first. I think you need to learn how to listen to your dad. That might help him to learn to listen to you.
Right now you two have no relationship or understanding of each other. I think you should look at a longer term project of just getting to know your dad, what makes him tick, how he thinks, etc. You need to learn to bond with him.
The hope is that in so doing he might learn something about you, and thereby gain a whole new level of respect for who you really are. I think your dad has the potential to do more to heal your marriage than your counselor ever can. Plus you won't have to pay your dad (at least I hope you don't). Maybe run the idea past your SEC at your next freebie?
