But there was nothing #3

[Yoyowife]

You know how you hear about the LBS wanting to be confrontational with the OP. Well, I thought that was ridiculous...before it happened to me. I always said you should be angrier with the one that betrayed you because they had a committment to you. Whoa, was I wrong. I never did confront the OW but I certainly have held a lot more resentment for her than I have my H. Hate is a strong word, but I dislike her immensely. I know that H would have never strayed if he didn't want to, but you place all of your anger mainly towards the OP because you love your spouse. Your head can reason it out that your spouse is mainly reponsible, but you can't help but blame the OP. You think if they had not come on to my spouse this would have never happened, but you know that even though they may have the first move your spouse did not have to respond. I never thought I would have put up with so much BS from my H!