Oh that's right NDDT, I remember posting to you awhile ago and forgot we had almost the same name.
Glad you have that lost, that's good.
And I'm sorry for the rest... I know it's so hard.
Got some plans to redecorate the place to make it more your own once she's gone?
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Well here is the good part. For the last few weeks I have been shopping my local yard sales. Seeing as she gave me a list, I knew what I needed to replace. In my garage, which is locked and going to stay that way. I have about 80% of the stuff already replaced, down to the toaster. That is one thing that I am looking forward too......... the look on her face when the next time after her move she comes to pick up our kid. Walks in, and "WTF" not like she hardly took a thing....
This hasnt been a complete surpise to me, I am just sad, (distraught) that it is actually occuring. I guess Que Sera Sera.
What else can I do? Except live the rest of my life I suppose!!
Nice!! I'm glad you have things so well planned out. Some of the really tough moments I've heard of from my sep/D'd friends or family has been things "missing" from the house. Going to make some toast and dang it, she has the toaster... and it's just a constant reminder.
I'm still so sorry that she's leaving, I know this is extremely hard.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
the look on her face when the next time after her move she comes to pick up our kid. Walks in, and "WTF" not like she hardly took a thing....
Why do I now have the image of a cartoon character double-take in my head?
You knew this was coming, NDDT. No worries, you'll be fine. Don't know where you are in Texas, but take the D to one of those Slitterban water parks or Galveston could be fun (I've always liked Galveston for some reason, maybe it's that damn song.)
I agree with Swashy though, keep the anger in check. At this point, I'm not sold on having a status check/relationship talk. However, on the other hand, honestly cannot see what harm it could do.
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
Hooray for Tylenol PM kicking in.. sleep well NDDT
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Hi NDDT, i have learnt anything you say or do does not make a difference. I did the usual. My wife and daughter have been gone 5 months. She acts like a 32 year old teenager. THEY DO NOT THINK ABOUT THE FUTURE. MY WIFE HAS STATED THIS, THEY JUST THINK ABOUT TOMMORROW. The head is well buried in the sand, and they want to be friends. I think this makes them less guilty about ripping our kids away, and destroying our kids stability for the future. I worry i will be replaced by another male role model in the future, that does not bother W. She says that i can still be a good Dad. Yeah right.
I have a WAW friend, she is a single mum, and tells me she did all the same. She now after 2 years of independence, men who have turned out to be users and the loneliness has crept in.She wants him back. But he has a new family, new woman, new kid etc. She wants to shake my wife into some sense. But it doesnt help.
Its time im afraid more than anything. I know i will have a long struggle now without them. But in the end that was her choice, and i am sure one quiet night she will think about that, AND if i am a yummy chocolate cookie man by then, well perhaps. Just be a good Dad, limited i know , but just try. I find making little comments about how you miss your daughter and how you wish you could be a full time dad sink in a little.
The WAW amazes me really. We made a child together, mums are supposed to want to want the very best for their kids. Divorce is not the answer, working, effort and responsibility to sort out the marriage is.
me 34, wife 32 , daughter 5 . married 8 years , together 10. Bomb dropped 9th april 07. she moved out 9 days later.....
Good morning. I actually slept fairly well last night. Have a tad better outlook this morning. Still am somewhat in freak out mode though. Going to work hard on getting to a better place in my head today.
Did not respond to her note at all. Dont know what to say really.
Mark thanks for the response. My wife actually moved out 1 week before yours did.......she has been staying with her sister. Now she got her own place. She is making this a more permanant decision now.
"The WAW amazes me really. We made a child together, mums are supposed to want to want the very best for their kids. Divorce is not the answer, working, effort and responsibility to sort out the marriage is."
I so agree with your statement. Unfortunatly for me, I dont think that is the way things are going to work for me. The woman I married is acting like a spoiled child. She wants to have everything and not work for it.
Well I am off to work. Hope everyone has a good day.
OK. I am in a bit of a better place tonight. I called wife a bit ago, under the pretense that I would like her to let me have kids DVD player for the weekend. These come in real handy for road trips in case anyone doesnt know this.......
Told her that I am out of here from noon on Sat until noon on Sunday. So that she can come do what she has to do.
Also asked her if she would be willing to have a talk with me in the next couple of weeks, she agreed. Told her that it will probably not be next week, as I am working every day. But sometime the week after. So I need to sit back and think about what this talk is going to be about. I did recieve some stuff from the Retrovalle today, I want to ask her to consider it. Also do want to comminucate to her that no matter what........lets try to put our child first.
Is this the end? Could be. New begginning one way or the other. Next few days will still be hard, but going to keep my chin up and make it through.....
