Lost and don't know what to do

[Amy]

I originated on the I am thinking about leaving board and now I found myself here separated. I do not know how to link my post so if anyone does feel free to help me.

I am at a loss right now for what I am going to do. I have gone dark. I am not contacting him at all, the kids are not contacting him, I have given him a time limit to contact me. (he doesn't know this)

I have decided that if he doesn't call me or make any attempt to let me know that he wants to see the kids or make any attempt to be here for us or even let me know if he is alive I will be filing for divorce next week.

I did find out he is staying a lot at the home of the girl he had an affair with a year and a half ago. He says they are just friends but honestly at this point I don't care. He would rather be with her than so be it....... Maybe this is the wrong attitude but at this point it is for self preservation.