Well when I got home from work today. Things were packed. Her move is going to occur this weekend. She has removed pictures of our daughter from the walls.........
I knew that this was coming for quite some time now, but it is so hard. She left me a note. "I will come by and move all of my stuff on Saturday, if it is ok with you" How do I answer that? NO ITS NOT OK........NONE OF THIS IS OK!!!! IT SUCKS!!!!
I am going to take my daughter and get out of here on Saturday. I dont know where we are going, but I dont want to be here. I am not going to move a thing for her.
I really want to leave an answer to that note. Dont do this. Stop. Think. I ..... dont know what to say.
I am going to talk to her within a couple of weeks. Ask her if this is what she really wants. Because it is about to become all business very soon.
Well she is a big girl. I plan to attempt to extend 1 more olive branch in about 2 weeks, which I will surely get shoved up my azz.
Then let the games begin. She will soon realize the full implications of all the financial and legal consequences. I am tired of this crap.
I have been lied to I am sure of. I have been unfairly treated, and led to believe that all of this was my fault. Well her wake up call is coming.
I am not there yet, I still have a little hope that she may at least consider what I say to her in a couple of weeks. But if her actions/ non actions push me to turn away, I am not looking back. Do I have any other choice? It will be time to take care of me and get the best deal I can for my daughter and my self.
STay strong NDDT....easier said than done i know. Take your daughter somewhere fun and exciting and enjoy getting the heck out of dodge this weekend...you deserve it!! (((NDDT))) christa
H-32 Me-29 T-10years M-4yr (10/04) Me- WAW 1/07 I filed for D 2/07 D put on hold 5/07 H re-files for D 9/08 WOW! trying MC 10/08
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Ok NDDT. First off...why oh why extend the olive branch? It does you no good. Nothing you say will magically change her mind and if she does change her mind, it is up to her to tell you. Don't waste your breath.
Second...a very wise person on here once told me not to mask sadness with anger. That is what I hear from you. You say that you have a little bit of hope that she will consider what you have to say..but then you if she doesn't you want to take her to the cleaners? That makes no sense to me? Why would you want her to consider anything if you want to also screw her as bad as you can?
And trust me..the moment people start acting like that is when everyone loses. Does you no good my friend.
I plan on taking her out of here on Saturday early and not coming home until Sunday. I want to do something fun with her, but right now I do not have any ideas. Will think on it at work tommorow. What is gonna be real hard is going to keep up a good front for daughter knowing that when I get home alot of things will be missing. And that wife has decided to make this a more permanant thing.
I need to get to a calmer place.....in my head. Remember that a new chapter of my life is about to begin. OhhhhhMMMMMMMMMM
I dunno what to say swash. I am sad. This is not how things were supposed to work out you know? But I am also angry, not sure if it is a mask.
As far as taking her to the cleaners, I dont really want to do that. I just want to protect my rights as a father foremost. Also want to attempt to hang onto the house, I think it is possible if a few things happen. Financial realitys for her will be paying her own health insurance, and that is gonna hit her hard.
I know, when all of this settles down I will probably be in a better place. It is definatly a heat of the moment type thing right now. I am not going to make any snap decisions. Some of what I am typing right now (I realize) is just venting.
But speaking of realities, perhaps it is time for me to face them as well.......I am hoping that when I do talk to her, it is a calm sort of a fact finding type of thing. I dont want to pressure her, but I do want to know where she is at. If she really thinks it is done, one of the things I would like to ask her is, "Well then why havent you filed?"
I hope that somehow, I manage to get at least 6 hours of sleep tonight. I have taken 2 tylonal PMs......so
NDDT... haven't really followed your sitch that must, but just as a self protection thing you may want to video tape or otherwise inventory all the valuable stuff in the house now, before she moves out. Just in case there's any question later on, at least you have proof of what was there before the move.
Not saying she'd do anything shady, but just in case.
Good idea to take your D out and have fun this weekend.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
NikkiB (with the same name as my WAW except spelled Nicki)
She did give me a list of things she planned on taking. I got it tucked away. Also shot a bunch of pictures. Got that end covered. But thank you for the input.
