If you haven't already, go out and get the books - Divorce Busting and/or Divorce Remedy - asap, before you do anything else. And if you've been doing any of this - stop calling your wife and stop any questioning, begging, pleading, or talking about your feelings.

Start right away reading the newcomer forums and learn everything you can before you have any more contact with your W.

I'm really sorry that you're going thru this, but you've come to the right place.

In4ride
Me 50, H 55, M 17 yrs
1st Bomb Drop 12/7/03
Separated mostly in house
Come back together/H breaks back 9/04
Piecing, surgeries, recovery, H retires
2nd Bomb Drop 9/3/07 H moves out 20 min later